Why and How Tragic Events Hit Us Harder Now

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Yesterday was the anniversary of September 11 and the attacks on the Twin Towers, the Pentagon, and the flight that crashed in Shanksville, PA.  It got me thinking about why and how tragic events hit us harder now.



I’ll bet that like me, you had a feeling of heaviness most all day. You were in good company, of course. The whole nation mourned that tragic event, as we should. We need to remember and honor those we lost. Somehow, once the most important person in our lives has died, we seem to feel that collective grief even more acutely than before. Many of us who are veterans of grief and have found ways to carry that mantle find ourselves moved to tears again, even if it’s been quite a long time. It’s as if we knew the victims personally.



When awful, but now sadly normal, tragedies like Oklahoma City, Parkland, Virginia Tech and the Lower Manhattan Bicycle Path happen, many of the widowed feel those losses even more. It seems like a set-back. We were moving forward and then WHAM! We are triggered and knocked off our tenuous footing all over again.


Candlelight vigil at Virginia Tech on the campus of the school in Blacksburg, Va.


Why is that?  Is it normal?

Answering the second question first, yes, it is entirely normal, and we are in very good company. Why do we feel these events so keenly?  It’s not because we knew the departed and will miss them personally. We didn’t even know them, usually. What we do know, what we can relate to in a very personal sense, is the pain and loss the people who loved them will feel. We, the already grieving, know so very well the pain and sorrow that they are facing. We know that they will feel it for a very long time, and we can do nothing other than carry it with them, in our hearts and in our prayers.

It’s because we empathize with them. It’s what makes us human. I’m not going to offer you tricks and tips for these hard days. We need to be human on these days.




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